Fall 2012 Trend Alert: Two Toned Oxfords

Menswear is a staple fall trend, the same way florals is to Spring. Well this Fall, this trend is getting a fresh kick with two-toned oxfords! Oxfords, which have become popular within the last couple of years, are being paired with neon toned soles. To style this trend, I paired it with a feminine look contrast the masculinity of the shoe. Enjoy!

xoxoBer

Naughty Nautical OOTN

The Scariest Decision I've Ever Made...Leaving.

I've had enough. I've done all I could, there's nothing left...So I'm packing all my things and moving to NYC!

Now before you start sending congratulatory tweets (ahem, @urban_socialite), I'm not leaving just yet! I'm moving around late December/ early January, because I have to get my funds together and secure a job first. But I'm proud of myself for even claiming this move, and I'll tell you why.

Make it Work: The Colored Skinny Jean

Now I'm not a huge fan of colored pant fan (they bring more attention to my bottom half than I'd like), but I will acknowledge the fact I've seen many people pull the look off! Dying to add some color to you bottom wardrobe this Spring, without looking like you're on your way to Justin Bieber concert? I highly suggest pairing the pants with a neutral top, like the image below

Topshop polyester shirt
$64 - topshop.com


Topshop skinny leg jeans
$80 - topshop.com


Wet Seal floral heels
$35 - wetseal.com


Oasis vintage style handbag
$36 - oasis-stores.com


Chanel black earrings
malleries.com

The Problem With Plus Sized Fashion

Would YOU wear this?

It's not hard to tell that I love fashion. I majored in fashion merchandising in college so that I could one day work in fashion, I read sites like Business of Fashion and Fashionista to get my fashion news fix, and I shop excessively, looking for pieces that I can add to expanding wardrobe. And to piggyback off of that last statement, my options are making me sick.

"You work, where?"...The Post-Grad Struggle

Don't believe the hype.

I sashayed across the stage and shook my department chair's hand on May 20, 2011, and on December 11, 2011, I took my last undergrad exam (long story short- I got screwed over and ended up taking an extra class).  The week leading up to graduation, I remember hearing Marvin Sapp's "Never Would Have Made It" and bursting into tears, reflecting on the woman I've transitioned into these past 4 years. I started college as a socially awkward and naive 17 year old that only wore flip flops and Air Forces and emerged as a confident, self sufficient, and socially aware 21 year old (with a much better wardrobe, I might add). I cried because one chapter of my life had ended, another would soon begin; one that included a salaried job, a new car and a place of my own.

Or I so thought.

Single Black female, in search of...

Why am I single?


That's a question I've asked myself more times than I'd care to remember. My relationship status is something that has given me a sense of empowerment while making me feel lonely and insecure at the same time. I've learned to be completely self-sufficient and independent, but every time I like a guy and he doesn't offer me that courtship, I start to second guess myself.

What did I do wrong? Is it because I weigh more than 200 lbs? Is it my natural hair? Did I give it up too soon? WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME? 


I can honestly say that I have been single for 99.9% of my life. I was asked out my freshman year of high school, and it lasted for a week (he kissed another girl, and I wasn't playin that shit). Since then, I've lead myself into a downward spiral of men that have used me by giving me a false sense of entitlement in order to obtain whatever they wanted from me (I don't have to tell you what that mostly consisted of). Basically, I've sold myself short...instead letting these men see me for the bright, funny and ambitious person I am, I turned myself into nothing more but a vagina with money and a set of car keys. Notice the main focus of this post is I, because I had the power to stop this, but I was too naive to realize my own strength, until now.

I am no longer that person. I know what am I capable of and what I deserve. Until I get it, I'll continue to accept that dreaded "s" word, and work through my issues with the opposite. And I hope my fellow single women will do the same. You are as beautiful, smart and deserving as you think you are; don't ever let anyone tell you different.

xoxoAmber